People are usually super excited to get married. Sure, the first year can be fun as you go through the honeymoon phase and spend a lot of time together. But after that, things start to change. You become established as a married couple and things start to get boring. You are no longer excited to see your spouse. In fact, his or her presence may even be downright annoying.
This can be a serious issue for your relationship. Unless you act quickly and add some fun to your marriage, you are doomed to either a lifetime of unhappiness or divorce. So what can you do to make your marriage less boring? Here are some tips to help.
Talk to Each Other
It is easy to just sit in silence, but how fun is that? The reason why couples get bored with each other is that they think they know everything there is to know about their partner. People change their way of thinking over time. Do you really know how your spouse feels about certain issues? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. The only way to know for sure is to talk to them. Ask them questions.
Get Away Together
Being at home all the time is too monotonous. It is the same old thing, day in and day out. Be proactive and get away from it all. It does not have to be a week-long vacation. Just find someplace local where you can get away for the weekend. Go somewhere new, someplace you have not been before. That will certainly be something exciting that you can share together. Get off your phones and explore.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
If you do not have time for a weekend getaway, you can still explore new things. Broaden your horizons by trying new foods, going to new places, or engaging in new activities. Doing the same thing over and over again gets boring, so try something new. If you like it, do it again. If you don’t, laugh about the experience and try something else.
Surprise Your Spouse
Just about everyone likes surprises—as long as they are good ones, of course. You can add a little excitement to your marriage by surprising your spouse with little things. Think candies, love notes, flowers, token gifts. Think about the things your spouse likes. It does not have to be anything extravagant—just something that shows that you are thinking about them.
Use Food
Food is a great way to bond with your partner, whether you are cooking at home or trying new restaurants. A great way to make your marriage less boring is to try new things. Pick out a new recipe together. If there is a new restaurant in town, make plans to check it out. Go grocery shopping together. Make a homemade pizza or dessert. Incorporate food into your plans and you will never be bored.
Get Rid of Technology
No, you do not have to throw out the smartphone or TV for good, but spend some time without it. These electronic devices keep us from engaging with others, which negatively impacts relationships. Designate a time period where you and your spouse spend time together without any interruptions from technology. Even an hour of day of phone-free time can make all the difference in your relationship.
Do Not Let Your Career Consume You
Many marriages end when one spouse spends all their time working, never doing anything with the family. While it is important to work hard and be successful, there needs to be limits. If you normally work in an office and you spend all your free time on your work computer, you need to make some changes. Your career is consuming you and you will break up your marriage with your obsession with work.
Connect Without the Kids
Kids are demanding, especially younger ones. However, you need to make sure that you and your spouse get some time to yourselves. Weekly date nights can be helpful, but you should be spending time together every day, even if it is just for 10 minutes to check in with each other.
Do Not Neglect Your Friendships
Your marriage may be in a rut because you depend on your spouse for all your entertainment needs. You do not need to do everything with your spouse simply because you are married. You can do things with your friends, as well—in fact, you should. Give your partner a break and go spend some time with friends and other family members. If you want to include your spouse, have double dates with other couples. These other friendships will broaden your horizons and give you something to talk about with your spouse.
Do Not Neglect Your Sex Life
When marriages start getting boring, it is often because the sex life starts to wane. You are too tired. She is never in the mood. Boredom in the bedroom is never a good thing, so find ways to spice up your love life. Try new things. Discuss ideas and fantasies. If you feel like you never have time, make time. Put it on your schedule. It is that important.
Seek Legal Help
Every marriage goes through periods of boredom. Things will not stay exciting forever, but with a little effort, you and your spouse can add a little spark to the marriage and get out of a rut.
In some cases, though, nothing changes and the marriage has run its course. In that situation, a divorce will certainly shake things up. If you are ready to start an exciting new life on your own, Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler can help you divorce and move on. Schedule a consultation today by filling out the online form or calling (954) 346-6464.