We all want a reason to celebrate something, whether it be a wedding, birthday party, graduation, holiday gathering, the birth of a child, or other event. But a divorce?
In the past, there was a stigma associated with divorce. Nobody celebrated something like that. In fact, people might have gone to great lengths to hide such an event from others.
That’s not the case anymore. Nowadays, people are excited about the prospect of divorce, especially if they have been in an unhappy marriage for a long time. Some people are even having divorce parties to celebrate.
This may seem like an odd thing to celebrate, but when you think about it, it is really not. You are starting a new life and it makes sense to celebrate, even though a divorce can be stressful and sad. You want a fresh start, so why not have a party? You likely had a big celebration when you got married, so why not celebrate the divorce? A celebration with best friends can help you start off your new life on the right foot. Here are some guidelines to follow for a successful party.
Keep it Small
When you got married, you might have invited everyone you knew to the wedding. You do not want to follow this same logic with a divorce party. That marriage is now ending, so you want to be selective with who you invite to a divorce party. Think about relatives and friends who have supported you with the divorce. A divorce is a very personal event. It can be heart-wrenching to end a marriage. Who has supported you during these tough times? Who has been your shoulder to cry on? Invite those who have been there for you.
Find the Right Venue
You want to choose a place where you can let loose and have fun. You probably do not want to choose your marital home, where you got married, or anywhere else that may remind you of your failed marriage. Think of someplace fun and exciting, like the beach or a restaurant with a party-like vibe. You can plan a camping trip with your friends or book a night at a hotel or wellness retreat. The options are endless, so choose someplace where you will be comfortable. Remember, this party is all about you.
Consider a Theme
A theme can keep your party organized. Think of something fun or unique, like a beach party, a spa day, paint and sip, dancing, cooking, or redecorating. A theme can make the party even more fun.
Keep it Upbeat
Nobody wants to attend a pity party. If you are going to sit and mope, you may not be ready for a divorce party. But if you are ready to have fun, laugh, and be optimistic about the future, then it is time to get the party started. Have upbeat music ready to play. Decorate the venue in bright colors and be ready to smile and laugh.
This may be obvious, but do not forget the food. There are many options available, from party platters from the supermarket to desserts to finger foods to potluck dishes. Just keep the menu broad, considering that everyone in your group may like different foods. Also, keep any allergies or dietary preferences in mind. Of course, make sure to have some of your favorite foods on hand as well. And do not forget the cake. It is a party, after all.
Have Guests Share Their Experiences
It is likely that your friends and close relatives have gone through divorces as well, or at least nasty breakups. Let them share their experiences with the group. These stories will serve as a bonding session and help you understand that you are not alone. Many people have been through divorce and lived to tell about it. You will, too, and all your friends will be there to support you.
But Be Mindful of Others
While you may be ready to have a party, keep in mind that your decision may be inconsiderate to others. For example, if you have young children, they may not be fond of you celebrating your divorce, especially since the other parent is involved and the child may still be dealing with the effects. Even older children and teens could be up[set about your action and become rebellious.
If you have friends who were close to both you and your ex, they may have trouble celebrating your divorce. They do not want to show allegiance to one person or hear you badmouth your ex.
Also, if your ex gets word of the divorce party, it could be hurtful to them. They do not want to hear how you are moving on and celebrating the demise of a marriage. This is especially true if they worked hard to try to save the marriage. Having a party could make it seem as though a divorce is just a trivial matter to you, and this can cause your ex to suffer resentment.
Seek Legal Help
People love parties, and divorce parties are great ways to get together with your friends and start a new life. However, be mindful about how you go about it and try to make it a small, happy affair.
A divorce can be exciting but challenging. For the legal support you need, contact Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler. With 30+ years of experience, we know how to help you move on with ease. To schedule a consultation, call (954) 346-6464 or fill out the online form.