When people think of the most miserable and devastating experience possible, most would say the death of a loved one. Those who have ended their marriages would also rank a divorce high up on the list. A divorce is an emotional process that can last a long time and become very expensive.
While many couples choose to end their divorce amicably, not all do. Many chose to fight it out in court, which prolongs the process and costs even more. By the time their divorces are finalized, people are relieved but also physically and emotionally drained. Due to the stress and trauma, many people suffer a lowered immune system and end up constantly sick.
During and after a divorce, you may be worrying about your kids, but you also need to focus on self-care. Otherwise, you could end up with chronic health problems. Get your body back on track with these tips for staying healthy after a divorce.
Eat Good Food
When people are stressed, they either eat more or do not eat at all. You should strive for somewhere in the middle. You should try to eat so you can get nutrients your body needs to fight disease and keep you healthy. However, this is not an excuse to gorge on chips and ice cream. Instead, try to eat good foods, like fruits and vegetables. Try to avoid sugar and keep caffeine and alcohol in moderation. If you just ca not muster up the strength to eat, at least consider smoothies. You can fill them with your favorite foods, such as milk, berries, bananas, spinach, avocados, and more. Also, be sure to drink lots of water to avoid dehydration.
Physical activity is a great way to relieve stress and take your mind off of your divorce. You do not need to join a gym, but you should be engaged in some sort of exercise routine. This may include walking, running, lifting weights, or kickboxing. Maybe you prefer dance classes or practicing team sports, such as soccer or basketball. Perhaps you prefer swimming at the local pool. Exercise reduces stress and anxiety. It also improves sleep and increases self-confidence. So, find something you enjoy and get moving!
Consider the Mind-Body Experience
Go beyond exercise and get involved in an activity that takes your mind off the stress you may be feeling. Many people meditate or practice yoga. Some pray or engage in deep breathing. Others get involved in tai chi or martial arts. Consider working with a counselor or spiritual guide who can guide you to the right activity based on your emotions and goals.
Rest and Recover
The stress from a divorce can make you exhausted. Be sure to take some time to rest and recover. Make sure you are getting plenty of sleep — but not too much. Too much sleep can signal illness or depression, so aim for eight hours a night. Besides sleeping, you can also relax by getting a massage or acupuncture. Start taking yoga classes. You can also enjoy a bubble bath with a book.
Spend Time With Friends
Many people feel depressed and tend to isolate themselves after a divorce. While it can be tempting to escape the world, it can be cathartic to socialize and spend time with friends. Sadly, though, many people lose their friends in a divorce because they do not want to choose sides. If you have no support from your old friends, make new ones. Join a club or organization. Take classes. Go back to school. Attend local events. You are bound to find someone who shares your interests.
Get Health Care
You should see a doctor after your divorce to make sure your general health is in order. Too much stress can lead to high blood pressure and other chronic issues, so you should make an appointment and get checked out for any medical conditions.
Do not neglect your mental health. You should consider meeting with a therapist, whether or not you think you feel fine. Stress can do a number on your mental health. A therapist can help you work through underlying issues and help you move on. They can identify issues that are causing anxiety and help you understand what you are looking for in a relationship so you can avoid making the same mistakes again.
Avoid Impulsive Behaviors
Many people deal with the pain of divorce by engaging in destructive behaviors on a whim. They may go out and party, which means doing drugs and alcohol. Some start gambling away all their money. Others may think a new relationship will do them some good.
The truth is that all these impulsive behaviors do more harm than good. After a divorce, you need to face the pain head-on and you cannot do that if you are masking the pain with destructive behaviors. You cannot properly handle your issues if you are constantly intoxicated or starting new romantic relationships for all the wrong reasons.
Do not seek comfort this way. You will only end up even more stressed out and depressed. Focus on yourself and do not worry about starting a new relationship just yet. It can be scary to be single, but use this time to discover yourself and what you want out of life. You will eventually find out that you do not need anyone to be happy.
Seek Legal Help
People grieve a divorce much like they grieve a death. It is often a devastating experience that can lead to physical, emotional, and mental issues.
A divorce can greatly impact your health. Get the support you need from Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler. He can help alleviate your stress as well as provide you with the resources you need to take care of yourself. Schedule a consultation today. Fill out the online form or call (954) 346-6464.