Reasons to Remarry After Divorce

Reasons to Remarry After Divorce

After dealing with tumultuous marriages, many couples get divorced and say, “Never again.” There are others, however, who say, “Never say never!” They love the idea of being in love. They believe in love and soulmates. They think there is a chance of happily ever after, even after being married to someone for many years.

People respond to divorce differently. For some, once is enough. Others are willing to give marriage another try. With second marriages more likely to fail than first ones, it is easy to see why people are hesitant to say “I do” once again.

However, when it comes to love, you should not limit yourself. What happened in your first marriage may not happen again in your second marriage. You are marrying a different person. You are older and more mature. You have (hopefully) learned from the mistakes you made the first time around. 

Should you give marriage another shot? Or should you just forget about it and not take that chance. If you are on the fence about a second marriage, here are some reasons why you should  consider remarrying after divorce

A Second Marriage is a Completely Different Experience

Not everyone is the same. Your first marriage may have ended due to your ex-spouse’s addiction or financial issues. Not everyone comes into relationships with the same baggage. While nobody is perfect, there are things that people find easier to handle and are not deal breakers. Your second spouse could be a much better person. Maybe they have their life together. And you might be a better person now, too. People get more mature as they age. They realize what is important and what is not.

With Age Comes Knowledge

You are not the same person you were 20, 30, or 40 years ago. People change. Their ideas of love may change. You may have felt pressured to get married in your 20s. Now that you are in your 50s or 60s, you may just want to live your life. You have experience under your belt. You have a better idea of what your ideal partner would look like. You can make better judgments now as you are older.

You Have Fallen in Love

Many people find love again after divorce. Is it real love though or is it just lust? Has it weathered life’s ups and downs? How comfortable are you with this person? How do you deal with conflicts? Are you truly happy? Is it the real deal? If it has passed the test, then maybe it is time to consider marriage. 

You Do Not Need to Get Married Again, But You Want to

You should not need to get married a second time. You do not need money or stability. You do not need someone to take care of you. You should get married again because you truly want to. You could be happy on your own, but you want to spend your life with someone and this is your opportunity to do so.

You are Financially Compatible

After a divorce, you probably do not want to deal with money issues again. Find someone who is financially compatible with you. You should both be on the same page with your money goals. When you have different ideas of how to spend and save money, it makes a relationship tougher to navigate. While it may not necessarily be a reason to avoid marriage, it is something to consider before you say “I do,” as people do not usually change in this area. 

It is Good to Have Companionship

As we get older, we often worry about being alone. Nobody wants to be lonely. We all want someone to love us. For some people, it is also essential for their well-being. They want someone to talk to after working all day. They want to share their bed with someone they love. They desire someone to do activities with. For them, having friends is not enough. They want companionship, and this often leads to love and marriage.

Your Friends and Family Approve

Want an honest opinion of your new love? Ask your friends and family members. How do they feel about your new relationship? Do they approve of marriage? If everyone seems to be excited for wedding bells in the future, then you are on the right track. However, if multiple people in your life are warning you to avoid marriage, then heed their advice. Sometimes love is blind. 

When You Know, You Know

There is not always a rhyme or reason why a person feels a certain way. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut. You might just meet the love of your life when you least expect it. Do not assume you will never meet someone again because you just never know. Keep an open heart and open mind and your soulmate may just walk into your life.

Seek Legal Help

If you find love again after divorce, you should give marriage another try if you feel you could do better the second time around. Sometimes life experience makes a second marriage easier for many reasons.

However, you need to keep in mind that second, third, and subsequent marriages have a higher rate of failure than first marriages. You need to put a lot of effort into marriage. If you do not, you could end up divorced again. Let Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler prepare you for a second marriage. There are prenuptial agreements and other options that can protect you financially. To schedule a consultation, call (954) 346-6464 or fill out the online form