What is the secret to a successful marriage? Many people will say it is picking the right partner. Sure, you could marry the nicest, smartest, richest, or most beautiful person in the world, but if they do not complement you, then it is not going to work out.
When choosing a potential partner, you need to empower yourself. Too many people get into the habit of trying too hard to make themselves fit into another person’s life when they should be focusing on how the person fits into their life.
People often worry about the impression they are making when they are on a date. Does my date like me? This is understandable because you want to make a good first impression, and you want to make yourself attractive to someone. However, you need to make sure the person fits into your life as well.
You need someone who embraces you and everything that comes with you. All of you. You want a partner who is enthusiastic about you. Someone who joyfully embraces all sides of your personality, from your sweet side to your quirks.
A relationship means you work for your partner, and your partner works for you. You are a good fit for each other.
Finding a good fit is hard, which is why people date. They may be initially attracted to someone, but dating helps you get to know a person better. Does that person fit well into their life? If you find out that it’s not a good match early on, it can be disappointing, but it is also a victory. This means you can move on and find someone who is a good match.
Dates are like job interviews. Recruiters are looking for the best person for a job. People are looking for the best person to marry or have a relationship with. Yes, you have to make a good impression, but you also have to ensure that the other person is a good fit. It doesn’t matter if your date likes you if you do not like them.
A successful marriage means making a good choice in a partner. Keep in mind that a good partner is more than just looking good and making you laugh. Poor choices lead to divorce, so get an idea of how the person fits into your life. Avoid divorce by following these steps.
Do Not Be Afraid to Voice Disagreements
You should not be picking a fight with your date, but you should not have to lie or cover up your feelings either. If you do not agree with something they say, let them know. While it is good to be with someone who shares your beliefs and interests, disagreements will arise in a relationship. So, share your feelings and see what happens. How does the person react? Does the disagreement turn into a fight? If the person is unwilling to listen to your perspective without getting offended, then it is time to move on. They are not the right fit for you.
Relax a Little
After you have been with the person for a while and things are going well, relax your appearance a little. Make sure you still feel attractive to some degree but drop it down a notch. You will not be dressed up and in full makeup all the time, so how do they react when you dress casually? Do they react at all? Are they still as excited as ever to see you? If they still seem attracted to you, then that is a good sign.
See How Well They Communicate
Communication is key in a relationship, but not everyone communicates the same. It is important for a partner to be able to express themselves clearly, and this can be harder for some people, particularly introverts. It’s important that your partner is open and honest with you and can be straightforward in their communication without the need to play games. Good communication can take a lot of work, but if your partner is willing to take the time to listen to you and make sure their feelings are known, then it can be a good match. Opt for regular check-ins to ensure everything is going smoothly.
Tap Into Your Feelings
Really think about how you feel about the other person because that is what is important. Do not get too caught up in how they feel about you. When you think about them, how do you feel? Do you get butterflies? Are you excited to see them and talk to them? Or do you experience negative feelings, like stress or apathy? If you are not feeling positive about the person, then they are not right for you. Think about these questions to gauge your feelings:
- Do you enjoy learning about them?
- Do they enjoy learning about you?
- How do you feel when you’re with them?
- How do you feel about them as a person?
- Do they seem curious about your interests and perspectives?
- Are they respectful to you when there’s a difference of opinion?
- Do you feel like they consider you and really listen to you?
Seek Legal Help
Marriage is all about picking the right person to spend your life with. Therefore, it is important to know how to do so in hopes of a successful marriage.
If you pick poorly, divorce could be in your future. Seek legal help from Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler. Divorce is hardly ever easy, but we can make the process less stressful. Schedule a consultation today. Fill out the online form or call (954) 346-6464.