Getting a divorce can be a scary situation, especially if you have been married for a long time. Going from living with someone to being alone can be frightening. However, many people get divorced, and they survive. In fact, many thrive.
People seem to think that married people have it best and that single people are lonely. Popular culture makes it seem as though being married with children is the ultimate goal. That is not always the case. Many people enjoy being single. They do not need to be in relationships to feel fulfilled.
You, too, can be single and happy. If you are going through a divorce or planning one in the near future, you can live your best life possible as a single man or woman. Here are some important keys to a flourishing single life.
Joy
Most single people describe their lives as joyful. Even those who are not single by choice and would love to have a partner still find their lives to be happy. When people get older, there is often a lot of fear about what will happen and who will take care of them. Still, single people are happy with their lives at all ages and stages.
Solitude
Single people live alone, so they have a lot of solitude. However, solitude is not the same as loneliness. These people enjoy their lives. They use their solitude to be productive or relax. Some use this extra time to contemplate life or focus on personal growth.
Freedom
Living the single life definitely has its freedom. You get to call the shots in your life. A single person can do what they want, whenever they want. They do not have to deal with the constraints of marriage or a relationship in general, which requires give and take. A single person has nobody to answer to. Because of this, being single offers more resources and opportunities.
Loving Yourself
This may seem cliché, but being single allows you to focus on the most important person – yourself. We are often our own biggest critic. If you are single, you do not need a partner to build you up and improve your self-esteem. You just need to be a little more compassionate about yourself. When you are single, you learn to look to yourself for support and encouragement. This is important because if you do not love yourself, then how can you love anyone else?
Knowing Your Desires
When you are in a relationship, it is easy to lose sight of who you really are. You may think you want to do something, but maybe it is because it is something your partner wants to do. When you are single, you have the space to figure out who you really are. What makes you tick? What are your goals in life? What do you want to accomplish? Being single allows you to really think about your desires.
Accountability
When you are single, there is a lot more accountability for yourself. When something goes wrong, you cannot blame anyone but yourself. Likewise, when something goes right, it is likely because of your good decisions. You can make your own choices and live life on your own terms. By forging your own path, you can prove how confident you are.
Mastery
Those who are single do not have a partner to rely on to help them with tasks around the house. Single people have to learn to be independent. They either learn to master things on their own or have someone help them. Because of this, those who have been single most of their lives are in a much better position than those who become divorced or widowed later in life.
Less Stress
Relationships are stressful. You are constantly focusing on your partner’s wants and needs. This makes it hard to take care of yourself. Plus, relationships take up a lot of time, and having to plan regular date nights with a partner requires significant planning – more stress! Dealing with people is stressful. When you are alone, you only have to deal with one person – yourself. Just make sure your needs are met, and you will experience less physical and mental stress.
Social and Family Ties
Single people deal with non-romantic relationships in different ways. They tend to put more into friendships, especially with the people who matter most. Strong friendships are more important than romantic relationships. Single people have more time to focus on relationships with multiple people, so instead of “The One,” they may have “The Ones.”
Single people also have families. They may have blood relatives, such as siblings, parents, cousins, and grandparents. They may also have close friends who are like family. In general, single people tend to be more open as to who they consider their family.
More Focus on Career
Many single people enjoy their work. They want to spend time concentrating on their career. Some people may even pick up additional work in their field since they have the free time to do so. Single people often have more time, and this can equate to more money. You can use this extra money to do things you enjoy. You can also save this money so you can become financially stable and have money in retirement.
Seek Legal Help
There is often a stigma associated with being single or divorced. However, many people embrace their lives. They learn to do things on their own and are often fulfilled even without marriage.
A divorce can be a sad event, but it can also be a step toward freedom. If you are ending your marriage, Broward County divorce attorney Scott J. Stadler can help you feel better about what life holds for you. Fill out the online form or call (954) 346-6464 to schedule a consultation.